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About six weeks ago, my mom was saying how she never been to Las Vegas and wanted to go at least once in her lifetime. I had been to Vegas a few years back and really didn’t care for it much. I always said I would be okay if I never returned. Well, I ended up returning last weekend after all. I told my mom we could go for 48 hours and it would be long enough. She just wanted to go gamble a little and I just wanted to get away for a weekend (amongst other activities) , so it worked out.
We had made reservations to stay at The Cosmopolitan with a fountain view of The Bellagio. The room was absolutely beautiful on the 69th floor! It was so modern and stylish, but also felt inviting. Honestly, the view was more than breathtaking and worth every dollar. I would recommend this suite to anyone who’s willing to pay a little extra for this gorgeous room. You will not be disappointed! The Cosmo itself is an elegant place to stay and more modern than its competitors. I believe their target market is millennials, which is most ideal for me. My mom seemed to not mind as she called The Cosmopolitan “her favorite” on the strip. LOL
Our weekend was pretty laid back as we mainly stayed at the resort and ventured off to a few other casinos for my mom to test her luck. It was also over 100° during the day, making it unbearable to be outside for long periods of time, so we made frequent stops along the way. Xox La Flare
Sometime last year, I was scrolling through Facebook and came across this video that someone had shared. It was about The Waverly Hills Sanatorium in Louisville, Kentucky and how it was one of the most haunted places in the world. I had never heard of this place, but it was only four hours away from home, so I decided to check it out. Ever since I watched that video, I became intrigued and needed to go visit! A year later, I finally made that trip.
Waverly Hills Sanatorium was first opened in 1910 to take care of patients diagnosed with tuberculosis. There was a huge epidemic during this era for TB, so they figured the hospital was mandatory for treatments. Some of these treatments included: fresh air (hence the openness on the top two floors), heat lamps, and experimental surgeries. In one of the experiments, they would remove the patients ribs to let the lungs expand. They believed this would help cure TB since the lungs were enlarged. Another experiment was pumping air into the lungs. Granted, none of these experiments worked and left the patients in excruciating pain. They had a ward for men, women, and children by 1914, so there was a mixture of sick patients of all ages. Although, when Waverly Hills first opened, they only had about 50 patients. In those four years, Waverly had more than doubled their occupancy. They expanded the building again from two stories to five in 1926 and held over 400 patients at this time. Years later, streptomycin (an antibiotic) was introduced and the need for a huge hospital was not needed anymore. That’s when Waverly Hills closed their doors in the 1960’s. The building reopened shortly after as a nursing home for older patients that were severely mentally ill. It’s said that there were numerous reports of neglect during this time and that’s where most of today’s paranormal activity comes from at Waverly.
There are a few reports that go back to when the building was a sanatorium for TB patients though. One of the stories are about room 502 where a nurse hung herself because of an unwanted pregnancy by one of the workers there. A few years later, another nurse who was working in room 502 committed suicide. A second story is about a child named Timmy. It’s said his spirit cannot move on and he continues to play at Waverly with guests who bring a toy ball with them. Some even have said they got hit with a ball while visiting. Another chilling story is about a presence called “The Creeper.” It’s said he crawls along the walls and floors, but that this is a darker entity than the rest at Waverly. Some believe it’s a demonic spirit. Xox La Flare
The thought of being alone scares many people. Some even go out their way to make sure they are never alone at any given time. I understand the thought can be intimidating, but how are we to know who we truly are if we never spend time with ourselves? Alone?
I’ll admit, there were many times the thought of being alone scared me too. I didn’t want to do anything unless I had someone to do it with. It could be as simple as going shopping or running errands. I always felt the need of having someone there, but as I got older, I started to realize spending time alone isn’t so bad. I get to be selfish with my time and do what I want to do. I don’t have to check in with anyone or ask their thoughts about certain plans. I can just simply do them, but it’s not just about doing what you want to do. Spending time alone also helps you understand who you are as a person. It takes you out of your comfort zone and makes you do things you never thought you would do on your own.
When I first started my job in downtown Chicago, I knew I had to shake off the college student mentality and do some growing up. I used to skip lunch sometimes in college because I didn’t want to eat alone on campus, but there was no way I was going to continue doing that at my office job at 25. I remember the first time I went to grab lunch and sat on my own like many people around me. It wasn’t strange and I’m not sure why I used to tell myself these things. I was always so worried that people would look at me, but nobody even cared because it’s not out of the ordinary! People have to grab something to eat every so often, so why would it be weird to be seen eating alone? Many times our thoughts can be our worst enemy and we tend to overthink. That’s exactly what I was doing with my dilemma of eating lunch alone. I was so worried about looking weird or being by myself in general, but now I don’t even think twice. I’d be damned if I skipped lunch just because I had to “eat alone.” Xox La Flare
Los Angeles has so many vibrant and beautiful neighborhoods surrounding the city that I never get tired of visiting! I just took my second trip to L.A this year and it was absolutely phenomenal! The weather was also on my side delivering nothing but sunny skies and warm weather.
I decided to plan another trip to Los Angeles this year for one of the most important events in Pasadena; CATCON! I learned about CatCon late last year and told myself I would go the following year no matter what. Sure enough, I made sure to fulfill that goal last month and dragged my mom along with me! LOL! It was amazing to say the least, but we planned a whole vacation around the event instead of just going for the weekend. I’m glad we did so because we got to enjoy the nice weather and venture off to different places we hadn’t had the chance to last year.
We got to L.A early Thursday morning and just enjoyed our day at the Airbnb. We stayed up in the hills in West Hollywood, so the view itself was breathtaking. We were supposed to go on an evening hike to the Hollywood Sign, but we were so tired, so we decided to cancel the hike and watch the sunset from our balcony instead. Even though we missed the hike, the views from our place made up for it. Xox La Flare
We go through many ups and downs in life and tend to rarely notice how much the “bad days” can take a toll on our well-being. Sometimes we get into a mood where we feel discouraged or unmotivated because of a position we might be in or an event that is currently going on in our lives. Let’s face it, we all have shit to do and want to enjoy our lives at the same time, but we also have bad days and don’t feel like ourselves at times. Whether it be an incident at work or something in your personal life, having a bad day IS OKAY. Not everyday will be the best, but how you handle the situation will determine your outcome.
It’s important to have a positive attitude and mindset when things aren’t going well. Dwelling on a situation will not help neither. I myself have a hard time with being positive and looking at the bright side of things. If I’m in a bad mood, I’m in a bad mood for that day. I’ll try again tomorrow, but I’ve come to realize I’ve wasted so much of my time being in a “mood” that I need to completely switch my attitude around. We aren’t here forever and tomorrow may never come, so why wait until a whole new day to change my mood or attitude about a situation?
I get it. Work can be draining. Relationships and friendships may end. Arguments with a loved one can happen, but it’s all part of life. Don’t let these things affect your entire day or even longer! There is always a light at the end of the tunnel, so the dark days will not last forever! Just remain as positive as possible. “Be the person you’d be proud of one year from now.” “Sometimes we outgrow people who aren’t growing.” “You are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with. So be brave enough to let go of those who keep weighing you down.” “I used to walk into a room full of people and wonder if they liked me? Now I look around and wonder if I like them.” “Some walks you have to take alone.” “If you don’t like where you are, move! You are not a tree.” “If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan, but NEVER the goal.” “Never apologize for burning too brightly or collapsing into yourself every night. That is how galaxies are made.” “The best part about life? Every morning you have a new opportunity to become a better version of yourself.” “The comeback is always stronger than the setback.” “Not all storms come to disrupt your life. Some come to clear your path.” “You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.” “To heal a wound, you need to stop touching it.” “If they don’t like you for being yourself, be yourself even more.” “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” Xox La Flare
Sometimes we don’t realize how much our pets mean to us and the huge impact they have on our lives. If you think about it, nobody has our backs quite like our pets. They’re always there for us when we need them and they’re always full of so much love and affection to go around, we even forget we need anyone else! And let’s not even begin on their loyalty towards us either! We really do take our pets for granted at times!
A few months ago, I shared a blog post, A Little Black Cat Goes With Everything. This was about my new kitten I had just adopted, Salem. Since I wrote this piece over four months ago, I wanted to share an updated post on him! He’s grown up so much and he’s seriously the most important thing in my life. He has no idea how much he’s helped me get through shit in the last six months and how lucky I am that we found each other. I honestly never met a sweeter, most handsome kitty like Salem and I’m so glad I get to watch him grow everyday!
If you have a pet who is very dear to you, remember they are not here forever and to always spend as much time as you can with them. Like humans, animals have feelings too and want to feel loved and welcome. As owners, we owe this to our little fur babies. They look up to us because we are all they know and they too, deserve to live their best life! Xox La Flare
Weekend trips are easily becoming a favorite hobby of mine. I love exploring new places and seeing how other people live in different parts of the country. Although two days can be very short to sightsee, I try to cover as much ground as possible!
I’ve been wanting to visit Colorado for some time now, so I finally booked a trip spontaneously a few weeks ago. (I’m trying this new thing where if I want to do something, I just do it. Buying tickets, going places, etc., w/o waiting on someone). I’m honestly so happy that I did because I had such a great time! I know if I had waited on others, I would not be going anytime soon! A friend from high school ended up joining me on this vacation, so it was nice to not be entirely alone as well!
I flew into Denver early Friday morning and got the day started right away after checking into my Airbnb. I stayed in Capitol Hill which was an awesome location close to everything I wanted to do! The neighborhood was really cute as well with some Victorian homes and a bohemian vibe. My host was a college graduate from Boulder, so she gave me a bunch of recommendations that came in handy! Xox La Flare
Photographs are an essential part of life. Without them, we would be limited on things to look back on.
We think of photos as memories or keepsakes. We hold on to them because they mean something to us. A picture can tell so many stories and remind us of times we thought we forgot. How many times has a friend shared an old photograph and 100 memories start rushing in?! Or when you stumble across a photo of yourself as a kid and you start remembering that day or things that you did during that time? It’s a bittersweet feeling.
I’ve always loved taking pictures and now looking back, I’m SO GLAD I took SO MANY! I have a never ending hard drive of photos I’ll be able to keep forever and share with my family and friends. Xox La Flare
When it comes to the people we love and care about, we have no problem helping them out. Sometimes we’ll even go above and beyond just to give a helping hand, but why do we feel the need to help others and not ourselves? Why do we assume everything will be okay within our lives without self-improvement and self-care? Sometimes it takes a while before we realize we need to make some changes and start making better decisions for ourselves. These incidents usually come to our attention when something tremendous happens or life changing. It’s like we ‘snap out of it’ and start focusing on our lives instead. In all honesty though, how can we ever expect to help others when we need to help ourselves first? What’s that saying? “You can’t pour from an empty glass!”
Maybe that should be a motto to live by from now on for some of us. We often think that putting ourselves first can make us look “selfish” or “inconsiderate” when in realty, we’re just looking out for our well-being. There is NOTHING selfish about that!
There comes a time in our lives when we need to take a step back and look at the big picture. It’s important to analyze how far we’ve come and honor all our accomplishments we have made, but we also need to focus on the toxic traits we have. No matter what anyone says, EVERYBODY has some kind of negative characteristic that they can work on. Putting yourself first and working on these attributes not only helps you, but also those around you. It will make you feel better in the long run once you achieved your goal(s) you’re trying to pursue as well. Xox La Flare
St. Patrick’s Day Weekend in Chicago is one of their biggest events they hold every year!
I’ve been attending for the last several years (literally) and it’s always been a blast each time! Every neighborhood downtown has their own bar crawl, there’s a huge parade in The Loop, and most importantly, the dyeing of the Chicago River.
Chicago is known for dyeing their river green each year and thousand of people come out of hibernation to go see it! Luckily, it was a little warmer this time thanks to the sunlight! I would definitely recommend checking it out if you’re ever in town for St. Patrick’s Day. It’s nice to see in person compared to the photos. I believe they dye the river at 9 a.m and it stays green for about five hours or so.
Since this is such a huge event, every place is jammed packed with lines out the door! It’s honestly really crazy at the bars because some of the bar crawls start at 8 A.M, so many people are black out drunk before noon. It’s even crazier near Wrigleyville, so we steered clear of that direction! Wrigleyville used to be fun when I was younger and had intentions of getting drunk and blacking out, but I’ve stayed in River North the last three years. It’s still a wild time, but not out of control like Wrigley. Xox La Flare
Relationships always required time, effort, & love to make it work. But nowadays it seems like they fall apart a lot easier. People are so quick to throw in the towel instead of working out the issues. They rather walk away because it’s simpler, but how can anything last when no one is willing to put in the effort?
We see others saying things like “relationship goals” or “I hope to one day have a relationship like yours.”
Why compare YOUR relationship to someone else? Your ‘relationship goals’ should be original and unique. You should want to make your OWN goals instead of studying others. Remember, not everything you see is true, so why want to be like someone else? If you continue to think this way instead of striving to build your own, your relationship will not flourish. Take all that effort of wanting what they have and put it into your own relationship. I promise that outcome will benefit you & yours the most. Xox La Flare
2019 started off rough for me. I found myself crying for days, missing work, and feeling like I had no reason to go on with life. I would have to say this was one of my darkest times yet. I couldn’t find the light at the end of the tunnel as the days kept passing by. Everyday seemed to get worse. Sleep wouldn’t even help me escape my thoughts. My dreams were suicide. They still are…
While I was dwelling on the past and feeling sorry for myself, I needed to get away from everything. I needed to cleanse my mind, body, & soul, so I spontaneously booked a trip to L.A three weeks ago.
Over this past weekend, I spent all day and night at the beach. I got to watch the sunset each evening over the Pacific Ocean in 70 degree weather. This was my third time in the Los Angeles/Venice/Malibu area, so I knew there would be no better place for a weekend vacation. Xox La Flare
I know I haven’t wrote in a while.
Over two months to be exact. Xox La Flare
Since I’m turning 27 today, I’m sharing 26 important facts I’ve learned over the last year or so. Self-care is SOOOO important, so don’t ever feel bad for doing what’s best for YOU and putting yourself first!
YOUR life, YOUR choices.
Let’s start; Your mom is ALWAYS right. There is nothing wrong with cutting people off with no warning. You don’t owe anyone an explanation that’s a toxic person in your life. Everyone will hurt you. You just have to figure out who’s worth the pain. Love hurts. But it’s also worth it. People who were once your friends will talk about you. More specifically, at the neighborhood bar on a Friday Night. It’s okay to NOT drink every weekend OR any chance you get. It’s also okay to sit at home on the weekends and do NOTHING. Not everyone will understand your dark personality. Don’t change because others are intimidated or see something wrong with it. There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s something wrong with them! PEOPLE SUCK!! But there’s still some good souls in this world. Go on vacation every chance you get. Life is more exciting when you’re somewhere new. Don’t be ashamed of who you are and don’t feel bad for sticking up for yourself! Stop prioritizing people who don’t give you the time of day. Always get even. Revenge is sweet when they least expect it. Don’t worry about fitting in. It’s better to be different and stand out. Alone time isn’t always lonely. Deep conditioning your hair & face masks are your bff’s. Stop caring what everyone thinks. Don’t feel bad for having expensive taste. Disregard everyone’s comments. If they could afford it, they’d buy it too. Always take pictures. Even if you don’t post them. Memories are priceless. Pay attention to who’s there when hard times hit. You’ll know who really cares. People CAN change, BUT let go of those who don’t change their toxic ways. They can bring you down with them. Life is way too short to worry all the time. The ones who criticize everything you do low key envy you. QUALITY OVER QUANTITY (Purses, Cars, Friends, Etc.) Make your moves in silence. Telling everyone will only get them to copy you. Karma is real. Everyone will get theirs in due time. Xox La Flare